I don't know if it just me, but has anyone else noticed how frequently people justify the conditions under which they became pregnant?

If its and "older" mom, she waxes about the wisdom and stability that they bring, and that they skip the regret phase of parenthood because they've already done everything they wanted to do before getting pregnant...

If it is a younger mom, she talks about wanting to have more energy to keep up with her kids, and not wanting to be middle aged when her kids are teens..


Yes, there are pros and cons to each side - there is no general right or wrong answer. But how did we as women get to where we feel the need to justify our choices? By definition, we are the foremost expert on ourselves, and thus uniquely qualified to make those kids of decisions better than anyone else, so why do we always act like we secretly feel that we made the wrong choice, and thus "protest too much" by over justifying the decisions?